In general thoughts have power over the way we feel and act.
Many of you have heard about CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy), the key concept is to catch the thought and challenge the dysfunctional thinking style
However, many struggle with identifying what are dysfunctional thinking styles are. An example of one is if you are constantly talking BAD about yourself, examples of this is “I am not good enough” “No one will love me” this thinking style would be labeling. By labeling yourself you are sub-consciously creating a belief about yourself, in return felling crappy about yourself.
The good news is that by challenging these negative thoughts you are able to RETRAIN yourself to change the way you see yourself. Below are some quick and easy steps to identify your negative thought and to start shifting your perception of yourself.
- AWARNESS: I am having a negative thought about myself
- IDENTIFY: What is the negative thought that I am having about yourself, you can also get CURIOUS here and EXPLORE when this thought first began. This is a great way to also address the ROOT CAUSE of the problem in return this will result in a greater healing process.
- CHALLENGE THE THOUGHT: What evident do you have that this thought is true or false. In most cases the thought is FALSE, if your thought is not false you can change the way you say this thought with kindness and compassion to yourself. SELF LOVE IS EVERYTHING.
- RE-EVALUATE: In this LAST PROCESS look over what you wrote and create a NEW THOUGHT that would be more accurate and is coming from KINDNESS. Let the SHIFT BEGIN.
After some time and effort, you will start seeing a healthy outlook, you will start SHIFTING away from negative dysfunctional thinking styles to COMPASSION AND NEW BELIEFS.
Remember nothing can be done without EFFORT, this new skill will require time and patience. You can also consult with a registered psychotherapist or mental health care professional, taking the first step to get help can be challenging but once you are getting the help there is only benefits. Take care of your mental health!